Moving on or moving forward

Gandhi said it right when he said forgiveness is an attribute of the strong. Explains why sometimes it is so darn hard. We have to learn to forgive those around us who do wrong. Do we have to accept them and their differences or what they have done, no we do not. However, for our own sanity we have to learn to forgive or try our best to forget. It is funny how the mind works though. We tend to remember extremely emotional events, positive or negative. In many cases it is the negative that we reel over. Those are the ones we really should make peace with for our own health. When I have something happen that is even slightly off kilter creating a negative vibe, I run it over in my mind. Do you? We are trying to figure out why, how, and what we could have done. Sadly, those things are passed. We cannot rewind and do a retake. So, it is best to move on. Forget to the degree that it does not cause agita (as my mother called it when I was a child). I do want to suggest, as I always will, do not forget them so much you cannot learn from them. If you are part of the problem, change that and become part of the solution. If you see the problem, help create a solution. Yet, always for your own sake, when you are wronged, forgive. If not for those who wronged you do it for yourself. 

There have been many times I kept my mouth quiet about what my mind it reeling about. I know that I have opinions that differ from others, and as long as my family was not greatly impacted I did not speak of it. Then I realized that if I did not speak, it came back around and did have an impact. So as much as I have said in the past not to worry yourself of things and forgive or forget, I still think that it is important to stand up for what you believe and be proud to share what you know and who you are. This notifies others of differences and solutions so they can either accept or ignore (as I have advised you to do) yet it gets those thoughts out there into the world. The way to move forward is to make sure you are doing what is right in your heart, mind, and soul and then go for it. I have many times realized how hard it is to forgive people, even for the silliest things. When looking back, it has always been worth it to forgive and move on or move forward.